The heart has its precepts, but its deeds have its limits.
the road of life is long, it is inevitable to slip into the jungle, bumpy and circuitous.
some people are trapped in the lack of cognition, some people are trapped in indulgent desires, and others are trapped in the inflated self.
as the saying goes, "the heart has its precepts and its deeds have its own deeds."
if you want to keep moving forward and not lose your way, you must make good use of these three rulers.
the first ruler: self-knowledge
self-knowledge is the most important thing to be a man, and self-control is the most important thing in dealing with the world.
the most important thing in life is to know what you want, not to make your brain a racecourse for other people's thoughts.
Socrates' phrase "know yourself", after thousands of years, is still enlightening.
writer Zhang Liangji once told such a story.
he has a familiar massage master with exquisite craftsmanship, and many stars are his regular customers.
once, he asked the other party, "Why not make the studio bigger?"
in the eyes of ordinary people, only by taking more apprentices and opening more branches can you make a lot of money.
but the massage master replied that it was precisely because he had considered many realistic factors that he decided not to expand.
in his opinion, his craftsmanship cannot be copied, and even if he teaches it to his apprentice, he may not be able to achieve 100% accuracy.
in the end, the customers were dissatisfied and their business was affected. Instead, they broke their own signboard.
the master said that his brother opened more than a dozen branches, but he didn't make money in his own "small and sophisticated" way of operation.
"know what to do and what not to do."
is to have the wisdom of self-knowledge.
in many cases, the more things you experience, the more you will understand how rare it is to have self-knowledge.
the hardest thing for a man to know is to be prudent.
is neither self-limiting nor self-expanding, but is clearly aware of the boundaries of ability and is responsible for one's own life.
Paul said: "the real greatness of a man is that he can realize his smallness."
know yourself objectively and accept yourself soberly in order to live up to a trip in the world.
second ruler: introspection
the ancients said:
if you can't do it, you can't do it.
means that if you fail to achieve your desired goal, you have to look for a reason from yourself.
in life, people often attribute their difficulties to external causes, always complaining, and never turn their attention to themselves.
her friend Xiaoyang is a person who likes to complain. Every time she meets everyone, she always talks about all kinds of troubles in her life.
when she first joined the new company at the beginning of the year, she complained for most of the day at the party.
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first of all, it is said that the company's regulations are too harsh and not humanized at all, and "my colleagues who are responsible for reimbursement will make it difficult for me."
also said that colleagues in the same department were difficult to get along with, and no one instructed her to work on a project together.
even the accepted standards and regulations of the industry have been criticized by her as useless.
the friend who is tied up gently reminds her: "maybe you haven't adapted enough."
implies that she adjusts her mindset and changes herself.
but Xiaoyang disagreed and still felt that the whole world was against her.
not long ago, I heard from another friend that Xiaoyang's previous job had not passed the probationary period and was still looking for a job.
it is not difficult to imagine that if she cannot find her own reason from this failure, no matter how many job applications, she will eventually end up in failure.
someone on the Internet asked: is there a way to minimize the possibility of making mistakes in life?
A highly liked answer is: learn to introspect.
No one knows the mental process behind every decision better than yourself, and no one knows the pros and cons behind every important moment better than you.
introspection is like looking in the mirror, showing gains and losses, success or failure, joy and anger at a glance.
just as the best chess players know how to look back, the smartest people must know how to reflect.
as the saying goes, "those who are in power are confused, but bystanders are clear."
introspection is to give yourself a chance to break through the mystery as a bystander.
Kazuo Inamori once said:
Life is like walking through a minefield full of temptations. When we walk through it, we will more or less touch all kinds of "mines", which is inevitable.
whenever we "touch the mine", what kind of self-reflection we can carry out is the key.
introspection is about self-help, self-improvement and self-improvement.
third ruler: self-discipline
Japanese writer Takashi Nakajima once said:
anyone is an animal trainer, and that beast is nothing more than his own temperament.
self-discipline is essential if you want to tame human nature.
I don't know when to start. When it comes to self-discipline, the public's first reaction is always "getting up early", "losing weight" and "running".
when I saw some students getting up early, they swarmed in and got up early, came to the library, but fell asleep.
when I saw people around me shouting "lose weight", I excitedly applied for a fitness card and bought a bunch of fitness equipment, only to put it on the shelf in less than a week.
seeing the road map of morning running and night running in WeChat moments, I went for a run on a whim in jeans and slippers, finally grinding out blood blisters and straining muscles.
few people think, these actions are in the voice of the outside worldUnder the influence of blind obedience, or from the heart to change actively.
true self-discipline, there is no universal guide to action, but along their own set goals, selective pursuit, selective abandonment.
this process is destined to be long, and it is precisely because it is long that it highlights the value of self-discipline.
in the book becoming a terrible self-disciplinarian, positive questioning is mentioned to help people achieve self-discipline.
for example, "did I exercise today?" Replace it with "did I try my best to exercise today?"
simply "yes" or "no" is easy to make people lose the motivation to change themselves.
paying attention to "whether we have done our best", on the contrary, allows us to focus on "self-discipline" itself and maximize internal motivation.
the starting point of self-discipline is always yourself.
when we can put aside the numerous voices of the outside world and make ourselves better and stronger, self-discipline can play a really positive role.
if we, like animals, listen to desire and escape pain, we are not choosing, we are obeying.
the three precepts of self-knowledge, self-examination and self-discipline give us not simple repression, but the right to choose.
with self-knowledge, we can learn more about ourselves;
with introspection, we can look inside more carefully;
with self-discipline, we can control our lives more calmly.
this is not only a sharp weapon to regulate ourselves, but also a treasure to help us "spend our precious life time on the blade".